My Mom kept it simple when we were growing up, but I still think of the things she said to guide us daily. I still turn to her sayings in my business and personal life.
~ “Be considerate!” ~ I strive to think about what I am about to say or do and how others will react and feel. This is a healthy version of being “PC.”
~ “I’m going to count to 3…” ~ I’ve learned to stop and think before speaking or taking action and I’ve never been sorry after doing so.
~ “Tomorrow is another day.” ~ I strive to let the grudges and failures of today not pollute my future attitudes and action.
~ “Mind your P’s and Q’s!” ~ In my lifelong involvement in bar/restaurant hospitality industry, I’ve learned it’s a nickel and dime business where failure is often caused by ignoring a lot of little things. I think that’s true of many other endeavors, both business and professional.
~ “It’s just one of those things.” ~ I have a need to analyze and understand everything, and I have to make peace with the reality that sometimes stuff just happens, and people act in ways that don’t make sense.
~ “We’ll see…” ~ Mom’s version of “maybe,” in response to those endless kid requests. She taught me to be tactful in controlling requests, but staying open to possibilities.
~ “MOB!” (Mind your own business) ~ This is one I use every day and it saves me time, money, and aggravation.
~ “Don’t be unpleasant.” ~ Smile and the world smiles with you. Or as I say to Clients in the hospitality business, “Smile and Make Money!”
~ “Go outside and play!” ~ Mom had very tough rules limiting media screen time. Of course there was only the TV screen back then. But growing up we “watched” much less than our friends, as Mom would kick us out the door to go expend some energy and grow our imagination. Today, I’m aware that passively consuming too much media is binging on mental junk food. I try to model behavior and spread the word to friends and associates that spending time with “talking heads,” talk radio, reality TV and negative web sites is mind pollution.
~ “Do unto others, as you would have others do unto you!” ~ The Golden Rule, present in every major faith, was big for my Mom and it remains the ultimate piece of Life Wisdom
So here’s my favorite Mother’s Day Song from Junior: “Mama Used to Say.”
And Here’s some more thoughts on what some “old school” mom’s taught us kids.
Happy Mothers Day!